There are many meanings, both positive and negative, given to aging and even having birthdays. No matter what our next birthday number may be, there is usually something that has been planned, hoped for, or feared that is attached in our minds to that number.
For some, it’s the magic of 18 or 21, or the fear associated with the age of our parents when they passed away. For others, there is dread at the number 30, then 40, and, heaven forbid, the BIG 5-0.
Our chronological ages, however, do not automatically tie us to a certain set of physical, mental and/or emotional conditions. While we may find ourselves being influenced by the perspectives of family, friends and/or employers, we don’t have to let the impact of that be negative.
There are several ways to make the aging process better for ourselves.
1. Refuse to accept limitations associated with your chronological age. Find something you always wanted to do and get started. That may be dancing, bowling or hiking. And remember, the treadmill settings start at .5 because all of us have to start somewhere.
Before I retired four years ago, I used to say, “I haven’t decided what I want to be when I grow up.” I really didn’t know the significance of what I was saying at the time. My life has changed, and continues to change, in unexpected ways, because I refuse to accept limitations of my chronological age. I now know that if my mind can perceive it, I can do it.
2. Get in touch with what your heart desires. In Deepak Chopra’s, “The Spontaneous Fulfillment of Desire”, he challenges us to ask ourselves, for 20 consecutive days, “Who am I?” and “What do I want from today?”. I have done this, and although some days the answers are not so clear, there are others on which they are strikingly so. For a video of Chopra himself discussing this powerful tool, go to this link.
The truth is that we can do and be whatever we want if we know what that is, we are earnest in those desires, and we are willing to allow the abundance of the universe to come to us.
3. Discover the possibilities. Sure, there is skepticism because of the economy, health issues, family turmoil, and other matters that we deal with on a regular basis. Without open-mindedness and exploration, how will we know which of the possibilities we desire?
Changing our outlook and expectations of even the smallest things in our lives opens us for larger, more positive changes to happen. On several occasions at the gym, others were watching me as I struggled to achieve a new range of movement. Because a few individuals that I did not know took the time to speak to me, I became aware of the possibilities to encourage others along their journey.
Since I began to open myself to the possibilities available to me, and have taken charge of my own health issues, my chronological age is more than my “real age“; my health has been restored; new friends have enriched my life, and I believe I know what I want to be – IF I ever grow up.
Many new growth opportunities have come my way, and continue to do so, each bringing a new thought, idea, or philosophy to share. I am evolving each day, seeking to recognize the gifts that others have to share with me, as well as seeking ways to share my gifts with others.
Nancy Burnham, a partner in Authentic Abundance, is a neurofeedback technician.
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